The Chaos of Codependency

Home The Chaos of Codependency The Chaos of Codependency: When a person is involved with someone who has a drinking or drugging problem they can be negatively impacted by those situations. If the unhealthy relationship continues that person may begin to experience...

Relationship Mind Games

Home Relationship Mind Games Relationship mind games are played by innocent people who have very little idea how they continually find themselves in such dramas. Consciously, most of us vow never to participate in mind games… especially if we’ve been...

Mastering Psychological Mind Games

Home Mastering Psychological Mind Games Psychological mind games are habitual patterns and methods of structuring time and obtaining Strokes. Games are interpersonal time structuring options sandwiched in between the safer, more superficial option of engaging in...

Twenty Signs of Marriage Problems

Home Twenty Signs of Marriage Problems Marriage problems can be hard to sort out when emotions take over. When you finish reading this page…click over to Marriage Help for solutions to these problems. These twenty signs of marital problems are adapted to this...

Marriage Help & Healing Your Relationship

Home Marriage Help & Healing Your Relationship Relationship and Marriage help is not hard to come by. Everyone has “the perfect solution”…right? The truth is that every relationship is different which is why it is important to get professional...

Define Intimacy vs. False Intimacy

Home Define Intimacy vs. False Intimacy To define intimacy one might first want to understand identification and the “Figure-Eight” as it relates to relationships problems. The famous Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung, once said, “You cannot have another...

Codependent Relationship Chemistry

Home Codependent Relationship Chemistry In a Codependent relationship, there is an element present at the very core of the various dysfunctional patterns and cycles in these toxic relationships; Patterns such as the Drama Triangle, the Punishment/Forgiveness Cycle,...

What is a Healthy Relationship?

Home What is a Healthy Relationship? What is a healthy relationship? Is it really something we just fall into if we are lucky? Some people imply that they think so when they say things like “I am just unlucky in love.” The truth is that we have to put some...

Distance Pursuit Games

Home Distance Pursuit Games Distance Pursuit games are dysfunctional patterns caused by impaired abilities to maintain a healthy separateness and connectedness in relationships. If we get this right, everything else about the relationship will be right. Healthy...

What is a Healthy Teenager?

Home What is a Healthy Teenager? What makes a healthy teenager? – NOT an easy question to answer, but here’s my best attempt… The Healthy Teenager… Has been a happy child Has access to at least one healthy, well-adjusted parent Has available...

The Formula for a Happy Child

Home The Formula for a Happy Child What makes a happy child? This is my favorite question to answer for several reasons… I am a grandpa who loves to make kids happy It’s the most important question – kids are our future Happy kids grow up to be happy...

The Five Drivers & The Safety Net

Home The Five Drivers & The Safety Net The Five Drivers, play a big role in the development of the invented self and managing the impressions of others. The first five counter-injunctions listed below are known in TA as The Five Drivers because they...

Fear of Abandonment & the Inner Child

Home Fear of Abandonment & the Inner Child Fear of abandonment is almost always a direct result of feeling or being abandoned at some point in childhood. This real or perceived abandonment is traumatic to children causing fragmentations of the Self. The study of...

Family Meeting – A Suggested Format

Home Family Meeting – A Suggested Format The primary goal of the Family Meeting – To create and maintain a well-functioning, organized family that meets the needs of all of its members. Following is a suggested format for creating such a meeting....

What is a Dysfunctional Family?

Home What is a Dysfunctional Family? A dysfunctional family is a family that does not function in a way that meets the needs of it’s members. It is important to point out that no family functions perfectly all the time, just as no family is dysfunctional all the...